Do you like to watch?

I don't know anyone that doesn't like a peek at the action during sex!  There is something so incredibly sexy about seeing your pussy being impaled by a big throbbing cock...or seeing your big cock slipping into a juicy wet tunnel!  Watching is one of the best parts of sex, so turn on the light and take a look, you don't know what you've been missing!

Women are at a disadvantage when it comes to watching the action, we don't have the view that our male partner's do, so that makes getting to watch even sexier when we get a glimpse.  There are positions that we can try where we get more of a view, and if you add a mirror to your bedroom you may even get an excellent view.  If you are riding him reverse cowgirl and you have a mirror then you have the best seat and view in the house!  However, even without a mirror prop yourself up with some pillows or on your elbows and take a good look at your lover pumping away at your pussy.  There is nothing so sensual and sexy as seeing your swollen pussy getting wetter and turning redder as his cock pounds against your soft, delicate lips!

Now, men you are the lucky ones!  You get to see..EVERYTHING!  Don't be shy about looking, personally I love it when a man watches himself going in and out of me.  I want him to see how much he's stretching me, and watch as my lips get pulled back and pushed inward as he thrusts.  I want him to see how he is the perfect size, because my pussy is stretched to its limit.  I want him to see my swollen clit, all pink and shiny out from under its hood because I'm so damn turned on!  I want him to see my juice flowing, soaking his cock...making it shinier and wetter with each stroke.  I want him to think MY pussy is the prettiest, sexiest, tightest, wettest pussy he's ever fucked!!  What girl doesn't want all that??

When you turn out the lights, because you're afraid your lover will notice a little jiggle or a few extra pounds then you are depriving yourself of one of your best senses...SIGHT.  Sex is better when you can touch, SEE, smell, hear and taste...baby, use all 5 senses, you have them for a reason!!  I say throw off that cloak of insecurity and spread your legs wide and show your lover what you've got!  Be proud of your body and remember, if he didn't think you were smokin' hot, he probably wouldn't be fucking you!!  Plus, don't be shy about looking down and seeing for yourself what is making him moan, because its YOU!  I say that October should be National Sex with the lights ON month, try it..at least once!  As always, Happy Fucking!

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Deep Throat

There is nothing men love more than for a woman to deep throat their cock!  The feel of pushing their cock completely into her mouth, her throat opening up to accept them is stuff that porn and dreams are made of...so how does a woman deep learn to deep throat?

Well, the easiest way to learn is to have a caring and loving partner that doesn't force his cock down your throat but gradually allows you to swallow more and more as you suck him.  By resting your hands on his thighs and using your touch to push him out or pull him in, it allows you to control the pace, even if your mouth is...umm..full ;)

Another good way to try deep throating is to lay on your back on the bed, your head just off the edge of the mattress.  This opens your throat and allows for a "straight shot" so to speak.  Again tho, nothing is worse than an over eager lover that jams his cock down your throat, choking and gagging you.  Its not pleasant and it sure as hell doesn't make us want to try deep throating again, so be patient!!

Now, I will say this..women are afraid of gagging.  They think it makes them look inexperienced and even worse, will make them puke.  The thing is, most men love it when their woman gags a little on their big cock!  They go wild when you drool while sucking it down deep...and the gasps as you suck in air after going down on them are some of the sexiests sounds they've heard.  Don't be afraid to give a sloppy blow job..spit on his cock, drool, gag..its okay!!  But, the best part of a blow job is when you are truly enjoying sucking him and not just going thru the motions!

I know that some women have an aversion to swallowing a man's cum.  I say, try it..you might like it!  If not, then assure him that its not his taste that you find objectionable...but the consistency of cum isn't your thing.  Men don't like to think that their cum is "repulsive" to you...anymore than you'd like to think your pussy juice is to him!!  So, give him some reassurance that you love his unique flavor.

Now, back to deep throating...try to take a deep breath in before you attempt it.  Then relax your throat and pull him against you so that he is applying slow and steady pressure.  Your throat will open up and he'll actually FEEL it when that happens!  If he tries to just push it down your throat, you'll tense up and your throat will close up and it will be unpleasant for both of you.  So, slow and steady is where its at...plus, he needs to know when to pull back so you can catch your breathe before attempting it again.  This is where your grip should clue him in...pull on him when you want him to push down your throat..push on him when you need him to back out. 

There are also a few tricks you can do to help things along.  If you have a big gag response, try numbing it with a spray of Throat Spray (for sore throats, you can get it at any pharmacy).  This may be just enough to help you relax and not gag as he tries to go deep.  You can also use a flavorless lube on his cock before you try, it will lube up your throat the same way it lubes up your pussy.  Plus, it actually tastes like nothing so its not going to interfere with tasting HIM. 

I remember the first time I deep throated a guy.  He actually put his hand against my throat so he could feel it move out as his cock slide into it.  The whole time I was deep throating him, he was encouraging and praising my effort, which made me more eager to please him.  So, talk to your woman!! If she's giving it her best shot, then tell her how good it feels!  Just remember to give her a break every few minutes so she can swallow and catch her breath!  Be responsive to her touch and don't try to force more down her throat than she can handle, or go too fast.  This is one situation where there can be too much of a good thing! 

With a little patience and practice almost any woman can become a deep throat Queen!  As always Happy Fucking!


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How to pick up a woman!

I think every woman has been hit on by a cheesy guy with a horrid pick up line and bad manners.  Trust me, you don't want to be THAT guy...so how do you hit on a woman and not have her roll her eyes in disgust at your "moves"...well read on my dear, and I will tell you! :)

First, make eye contact.  There is a reason it is said that the eyes are windows to our souls...you are able to express so many things just with eye contact.  So, if you see a lovely woman across the room, catch her eye and don't look away.  If she's interested, she'll look away, and then look back.  This is the start of the dating dance!

Second, smile...to keep your eye contact from looking creepy like the dude from Silence of the Lambs...you have to smile.  A smile is a great way of letting her know that you like what you see!  It doesn't have to be a full on grin, but definitely make it enough of a smile that it doesn't look like a sneer or that you have gas!

Third,  wink at her.  Yes, winking is old fashioned, but it sends a very clear signal that you are interested in HER.  If for some reason she doesn't get your eye contact/smile as a show of interest (maybe she's had too many margaritas to pick up on subtlety!)  Then a wink is a sure fire way of catching her attention. 

Now...let me say this.  If you do eye contact and she avoids your eyes...she looks away and doesn't look back, then that is a sign that she is probably not interested.  If she doesn't return your smile..again, chances are, she's not interested.  So, you might want to stop there.  There is no need to wink at a woman that obviously isn't into you.  Simply move your gaze around the room and find someone that is looking at YOU.  Then repeat steps 1-2 and 3 ;)

Fourth, walk towards her and introduce yourself.  Stick with something simple and truthful...I personally like "I'm John Doe and I just wanted to come over and say hello to the prettiest woman in the room."  Simple and complimentary.  Just make sure that you haven't already used this line on 3 other women sitting at her table, or you'll definitely look cheesy.   Women have a built in bullshit radar, so if you are going to compliment her on ANYTHING, make sure its sincere!

Fifth, don't be afraid to laugh...humor is sexy!! Just make sure that its not humor at the expense of someone else, that is never funny to women.  Also, don't...ever...bash another female in front of us.  Saying things like, "My buddy over there went for the heifer tonight, he's wearing his beer goggles!"..isn't funny and it is a sure fire way of making you look like a douche.  Disrespect is never sexy and cracking jokes about another woman's flaws will only make us think you'll be staring at ours looking for your next one liner.   What you can do is self deprecating humor, it lets us know that you don't take yourself too seriously.  Its also a great way of lightening the mood and moving beyond the awkwardness of a first meeting.  When you laugh together, and share a joke..you feel a connection.  And, that is what you want, to build connections!!

Sixth, don't make us guess if you like us.  I've been approached by men before that chatted me up in a bar and then when it was time to part ways...there was a weird moment where I was waiting for them to ask for my number and they acted like they were waiting for me to offer it.  I can tell you, I'm never going to offer it unless you ask for it..that is just my rule.  If you do ask for it, then call.  If you aren't going to call..then shake her hand, tell her it was nice meeting her, that you need to get back to your friends or you see someone that you should say hi too,  and move on.  I think too often men ask for women's numbers even though they know they will never call, just to get out of an awkward social situation.  There are other ways to disengage yourself when you don't feel that you are clicking without making some poor girl jump everytime her phone rings for the next 2 days.  Man up and do it right, don't take the wuss way out!

Seventh...you got her digits.  Good for you, obviously there was a mutual attraction there, so call her.  I know there are stupid articles that say wait 24 hours or your buddies will tell you that they don't call a girl for 2 days ...blah blah blah!  If it was me, I'd send her a text within a half an hour of parting ways, thanking her for a wonderful time/chat/dance and telling her you can't wait to talk to her again.  Trust me, she will smile from ear to ear when she gets that text.  Women love knowing you can't stop thinking about us...not that you put us out of your mind for 2 days until you found our number in your pocket as you were cleaning them out to throw in the wash!  After that initial text, then call her within 8-12 hours.  She'll have had a chance to get some sleep, talk to her best friend about you and re-read your text at least twice.  Strike while the iron is hot my friend!

Eighth...when you call her.  Again, keep it light..tell her how much fun you had.  Keep it truthful, and sweet.  Women love romantic and sweet.  Men now days, underestimate the power of romance.  You can set yourself apart from the pack, simply by being romantic.  An example, if she agrees to a date...bring her flowers (you can buy a $10 bouquet at most grocery stores and she'll be thrilled!), open the car door (actually all doors!) for her.  Hold her hand...let me say that again...HOLD HER HAND.  Today, there is such an emphasis on speed dating and getting to first base by the second date that the idea of dating and romance has gone to the wayside and women miss it!! 

If you are just looking to get laid then of course, ignore everything I've said in this article.   However, if you are looking for a relationship...then spend at least 2 weeks getting to know her, and date her..before you ever plan on sleeping with her.  Often you hit the sack too soon and then suddenly you realize a week later, that you really don't have anything in common...or that sex has now become the main focus of your relationship and bam...its over.  So, instead of that happening, try a novel idea its called DATING! 

Ninth...the first kiss.  Okay, so you've had a lovely date, you had a good time and you want to see her again.  However, now you're standing at her door and there is that awkward moment when you don't know if she wants you to kiss her or not.  I say this...throw caution to the wind and lean in, she will either meet you for the kiss or turn her head so you kiss her cheek.  Don't stand there looking at her, waiting for a sign...just face her, hold both her hands with yours and lean in so she has no doubt you are going to kiss her.  If she meets you half way then you are speeding down the 2nd date highway.  If she offers you her cheek, then she may not be feeling the same connection.  At this point,  if you are still interested, call her again.  If she blows you off with some excuse, chances are there won't be a 2nd date. 

Tenth...remember that compliments should be sincere.  Romance and sweetness isn't a sign of weakness its a sign that you know how to treat a woman (and we all like that!).  Open doors, hold her hands and have fun.  Dating is about finding out if you connect with someone or not, its not life or death.  So enjoy it!!

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Sex Addiction

I took a quiz that said I was a sex addict...hmmm...not sure I needed a quiz to tell me that! ;) All joking aside, do I think sex addiction is a real thing or not?  Honestly, I think its an escape goat for people that engage in risky sexual behaviors. I know there are therapists the world over that have a lot more education and training than I do, that would probably disagree with me...but this is my blog and my opinion. 

Sex can be a wonderful thing, but it can be used for "good"...like in a committed relationship, practicing monogamy, engaging in safe sex.  Or it can be used for "evil"...like infidelity, unsafe sex, multiple partners in excess.  So, how do you know if its a problem, or you just like sex??

Well, the way I see it is this...if after you have sex, you feel ashamed..then you're probably headed down the wrong path.  If you have sex and after you feel dirty or used...then again..wrong path.  Sex is something that shouldn't make you feel WORSE about yourself.  When you have sex and afterwards you feel bonded, loved, re-energized...then you are probably on the right path!  I think everyone likes sex...the only difference is sex drives.  I have a very high one, but someone else may have a very low one, neither is "correct"...we are all individuals and our sex drives are no different.  There is no right or wrong, its simply what YOU are comfortable with.

Now, we've seen a multitude of people in the media claiming sex addiction for their multiple affairs.  Again, don't blame sex for being a jackass.  I think the problem there stems more from relationship and commitment issues than a "sex addiction".  I think blaming sex is the easy way to not accept responsibility for your actions.  Yes, sex feels good and its fun and hot, but I don't believe that sex alone will cause you to cheat on your partner.  There is always more issues than that. 

So, back to my quiz...my quiz stated that I was a sex addict..a 8 out of 10 scale and I should seek immediate treatment!  Really? ..c'mon now.  If that was my score on a sugar addiction test, then I could see that..but the fact that I enjoy sex, I masturbate often and I've had my share of partners doesn't equate an addiction in MY book.  I'm not going to say I've always made the best choices or that I've always been a faithful partner...there are things in my past that I am not proud of.  However, those things didn't start with sex.  Those were relationship issues that spilled over into our sex life. 

I have told you before that women typically have emotional affairs and men have sexual affairs...but both result..in my opinion..from unhappy relationships.  If she is feeling neglected and unloved, she will seek out a relationship where she is held and kissed and adored.  She will seek that emotional aspect to sex that comes from love.  However, if he is feeling unheard and that he doesn't have a way of talking to you about his desires..then he will seek a sexual affair.  Sex plays a part in both..but the initiating factor was a lack of communication.  When we feel like we can't speak freely or we aren't being heard we tend to find someone that will fill in those gaps. 

I know that there are people that will think my theory is just hot air...that its all about sex and nothing more.  I say you are entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to mine. You may ask me how I explain multiple affairs, like a certain golf superstar engaged in...to me, that shows he was continuing to look for what he was missing.  He went from woman to woman seeking something that he wasn't finding...I don't know what it was, maybe reassurance, or communication, or he felt he had something to prove to himself.  To me, the problem still isn't sex...sex is just a symptom of the bigger issue.

I also don't believe that old saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater!".  We've all heard it, but I believe when a person finds what they need out of a relationship and with a partner, then they can and will be faithful.  I've cheated and I've been cheated on...its easy to dismiss someone else's feelings when you are engaging in that behavior.  However, when I look back at those relationships, I see now, what I didn't see then.  Being able to look objectively at those past relationships helped me find better relationships..where I was faithful.  Now, let me say that looking at your relationship where your partner cheated on you is a bit harder...you have to sometimes admit to your own flaws and that is hard.  Maybe you thought you did all you could to make them happy, but whose version of happy were you basing that on?  Yours..or your partners?  Sometimes when we are happy and getting what we need out of a relationship..we may not realize that our partner isn't feeling the same way.  We tend to see our actions through rose colored glasses and not necessarily as its being seen by another person.  I'm not advocating cheating or trying to say its okay..or say that the man or the woman that is being cheated on is to blame...all I'm saying is that there is always a reason and its almost never just about sex. 



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Why can't you release me?

I was listening to this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcNyk54b3ZU its by Wilson Phillips its called Release Me.  This reminded me of a relationship that I spent four years in...it was going no where, but for some reason he couldn't release me and I couldn't leave.  It made me wonder why we stay in relationships where its obvious that you'd both be better off apart? 

I will say that one of the strings holding me in this relationship was sex.  Sexually he was my kryptonite..my teacher.  He held a very strong sexual hold over me.  I was relatively niave when we met and he took control of our sex life...I did almost anything he asked.  This was the relationship where I had several versions of 3sums, where I learned how to suck a cock proficiently, where I learned how to use my pussy to milk cum out of a cock.  I learned a lot, and I've retained most of it! However, as good as were were together in bed...out of bed, we were a mess.

I am a Scorpio and honestly...I'm possessive by nature.  What's mine is mine, and I don't share well...so seeing my partner fucking another woman in front of me was more fun for him than it was for me.  Honestly, I had visions of pulling her hair and dragging her off his cock, but instead I licked her clit and sucked his balls.  I was so eager to please him that I was willing to do things that I didn't feel good about and that should have been my first clue that there was trouble in paradise.  However, we thought we were so "in love" that we don't notice that I was the only one that was.  I was in love and he was in love with being in control.

In the song from the link...at one point she says "can you release me?  That was the mistake I made, I kept waiting for him to release me ...instead of walking out the door on my own.  It took 4 years before I opened that door and left and I should have done it 6 months into the relationship.  Sometimes letting go is harder than someone letting you go.  You have to take your life and relationships in your own hands.  Stop waiting for someone to release you...if you need to go..then open the door and leave.  When I finally left, I was heartbroken, relieved, angry, hurt...it was a jumble of feelings initially but after a few weeks of sulking around and forcing myself not to drunk dial him...I realized that a new feeling had entered the mix..HAPPINESS! 

Starting over after a serious or long term relationship can be damn scary.  But, you can't live your life in fear of the unknown...sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and know that there is more for you out there than where you are.  I'm not saying its easy..and I'm not saying you can do it in a day or a week..but if you know you aren't where you belong, then maybe its time to start looking at changing that situation. 

Once I left that relationship, I entered one where the sex wasn't as acrobatic and experimental..but it was loving and intense and just between us.  I left a relationship that was volatile and wild and entered one that was settled and comforting but still adventerous and spontaneous.  I realized that I'd been cheating myself out of a true emotional relationship because I was holding on to one that was sexual and I was forcing emotion into it.  Relationships shouldn't be about forcing love...or sex ..into it.  If it doesn't flow naturally and honestly between partners, then its probably not the right place to be.  I also learned the importance of communication...I think I could have ended that 4 yr relationship without all the anger and heartache if I'd been more willing to talk about what was going wrong, and if he'd been more willing to listen when I did talk.

So, everytime I hear that song...I remember a relationship that taught me a lot about sex and a lot about how NOT to let a relationship define me, and to know that no one gets to "release me" because I have two feet and I can leave.  So, if you are in a good relationship tonight..then be thankful for your wonderful partner!  If you are in a bad one, then realize you deserve to be happy and fulfilled and loved and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  Until next time, Happy Fucking!

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Grab it, Guide it, Ride it!

There is nothing sexier than spreading your legs wide open, taking your lover's cock in your hand and  pulling him into your pussy!!  Its a very feminine way of offering your pussy to him.  I know some women don't like to take an active role during sex.  You feel spreading your legs is sufficient to letting him know you want his cock inside you.  But, I think most men love knowing that you are so eager for him that you are actually guiding him to your opening. 

Its also a great way of making sure he doesn't take you too quick, especially if he's very well endowed!  Your hand on his shaft acts as a barrier..allowing him to only partially enter your pussy.  As you adjust then you can move your hand on down his cock or remove it and allow him full access.  I've actually had to employ this technique for that purpose once, he never realized that I was limiting his thrusts until I had stretched enough to accommodate his considerable size.  He just thought it was my way of stroking him as he fucked me. 

So, what about if you're on top...do you guide him in as you squat over top of him, or do you just wiggle your pussy around until he's in the right spot?  I think you shouldn't be afraid to take him in your hand and put him exactly where you want him to go!  Don't let shyness inhibit you when your naked, be wanton, be sexual and be present in the moment with your lover instead of in your head worrying about your cellulite.  Grab his cock..and take your pleasure!


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Voyeurism

Wikipedia defines voyeurism as the sexual interest in or practice of spying on people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing, sexual activity.  So, voyeurism can be good or bad...depending on how you apply it!  If you are a peeping Tom..staring in your neighbors windows at night, that is bad.  I will tell you my experience with voyeurism which was good ;)

I had a girlfriend and we went on vacation together one year.  We had planned on a lazy week laying in the sand at the beach, but it turned into something else entirely.  While we were there we met two very nice men.  After a day or two of hanging out, we invited them back to our hotel room.  We shared a room with a double bed.  So..as you can imagine one thing lead to another and we were each in our respective bed with our new lover.  Peeping across the room and seeing her with her legs spread and hearing the wet sound of her pussy as he pumped it was so incredibly hot!  As I sucked my partner's cock I'd looked over and saw her doing the same...she noticed me looking and suddenly with just a look, we had a competition of who could make their partner cum faster...I won! 

As my partner and I were fucking doggy style...I noticed them peeking at US.  They were laying there..exhausted from their first round, watching us covertly as we engaged in round two.  It was incredibly sexy, knowing another couple was basically viewing us as live porn.  It wasn't long before they were into round two also!  In fact, that vacation turned into the most sex I'd ever had.  At one point, I was in the shower and I caught a glimpse of what I thought was my lover, peeping in as I soaped myself up...it turned out however, to be the other guy.  At that point we shared lovers back and forth the rest of the trip.  As I said, we were very close friends ;) 

After we came home, we had a lot of interesting conversations about our adventure.  We even discussed repeating it, although it never happened again.  However, I did have an experience where I was walking thru a parking lot after work in the evening and walked by a car that was rockin'...the couple were having sex in the backseat of it.  Instead of walking on by...honestly, I stopped and watched.  The guy looked up and saw me, but he didn't miss a beat, in fact, I saw him whisper to the woman and she looked up and smiled at me.  They put on a very good show for me before I finally left and went to my car with a soaking wet pussy.  I masturbated there in the front seat of my car in that same parking lot and if anyone had walked by...I'd have let them watch!

You can have voyeuristic experiences within your relationship...and sometimes you can get naughty peeks at people engaging in public sex (hey, they must know people will watch them!)  It can be a very exciting addition to your sex life if used properly.  I by no means advocate being a peeping Tom that is the more deviant side of this (in addition to being a violation of privacy and the law!) and not something I'd want anyone to have to endure.  However, if you and your partner decide to put on a sex show on the balcony of your hotel one dark night..and someone across the way just happens to notice and watch...then you might find that not only is your audience turned on, but you and your lover are also!

There is something about the adrenaline rush of catching someone having sex...or being the people "caught".  It can be very exciting to show off your technique as you pretend you don't have an audience.  Your moans become louder, your actions more exaggerated. In fact, you and your partner may find it very exciting to let him "peep" in your windows...to see you masturbating or getting ready for him by playing with your vibrator.  The good thing about that is even though you pretend not to know he's there, its a safe way of acting out your fantasy and adds another layer in sexual role play for couples.   

Like most things sexual..if you and your partner agree..you are limited only by your imagination in spicing up your sex life!  As always..Happy Fucking!



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Are tattoos sexy?

I may be biased here, because I have a tattoo but I had a reader ask me if I had done a blog about tattoos being sexy...I hadn't, so this is it! Tattoos have been around for centuries.  But, that doesn't mean they have been mainstream until lately.  Suddenly, everyone from pop stars to A list actors and actresses have tats.  It would seem that they are becoming body art instead of an alternative lifestyle.  So, I ask you...do YOU think tattoos are sexy?

Honestly, I have seen tattoos on men that make my pussy wet, but those aren't the skulls or zombies coming out of "ripped" skin.  The tattoos that I like best have a reason for being there...an example would be an Indian tattoo on a partner that was half Cherokee.  Or a tat that honors your service in the military/law enforcement.   I like tats that tell a story, that have meaning (like a coat of arms) or portraits of people you love (children/parents)...and aren't just there to take up space.  Those are the kind of tats that I think are sexy.

I think you need to get tattoos for YOU tho, and not because someone else wants you to have one. I had a partner that wanted me to get a shoulder/half sleeve tattoo at one point, and I almost agreed to it.  However, I didn't get it and now I'm glad I made that decision.  The tattoo that I do have is of a stick figure running girl, it helps me remember my first 5K Race and that I overcame a really stressful time in my life to accomplish something I never thought I could.  Its simple...but I love it.  My next tattoo will be the same, something that means something profound to me. 

I will say that I like tats on men, because it makes them seem slightly "bad boy".  I look at a tat and immediately think "Oh, he'd fuck me so hard, I just know it!"  Don't ask me why, but that is always the first thought that pops into my head! I know that men and women usually have very set ideas about if they like tats or not.  Some do, some don't.  Although they have become more mainstream, there are still those that will never like them, and that is their prerogative.

I had a couple that gets tattoos together tell me that for them it was an intense bonding experience.  They share a tattoo design and they go together to support each other during the process.  They said that they find the whole experience very emotional and that also makes it very sexual for them.  They are in a way, using their bodies as canvas' for their love.  I can see marking your body in a permanent way to show your partner that you love them, could be very bonding. 

I do also think that you should really consider the ramifications of putting another person's name on your body..forever.  If its a child or parent, then I say go ahead..those people will always be a constant in your life.  Partner's however may not always be with you, no matter how intense and strong your love is now. Life fluctuates and not always in a good way.  So, I would recommend a mutual design that you both get instead of names.  You still get that bonding experience..but without wishing one day that you didn't have your ex wife Susie's name tattooed over your heart when you're now married to Jane! 

I will tell you about a tattoo that I saw that personally I thought was really hot.  It was a full butterfly using a woman's pussy as the butterfly, the link is a pic of it.. http://www.tao-of-tattoos.com/butterfly-tattoo-pussy.html
 While this is a more extreme tattoo..by a woman with a very high pain threshold..I think think its very sexy!   I also like pretty..and unexpected tattoos..like this one http://www.tao-of-tattoos.com/flower-tattoo-on-pussy.html  Now, women aren't the only ones that get extreme tattoos here is one of a very brave guy! http://www.tao-of-tattoos.com/lower-abdomen-and-penis-tattoo.html 

As you can see, tattoos can stretch the limits of the imagination.  If you can think up a design and are willing to go through the pain..you can have a tattoo of anything, anywhere!   I know that lower back tattoos have been called "tramp stamps"..but I don't like that.  For one its derogatory and having a tattoo there shouldn't imply she's a tramp.  That is actually a really good spot for most women.  Its easily hidden, especially if she has a more conservative job.  She can show it when she wants and hide it when she wants. Not something that is easily done with tattoos on other parts of our bodies!  In fact, my next tattoo might very well be on my lower back..and the first person that calls it a "tramp stamp" is probably going to incur my wrath! lol

Tattoos can be both sexy, and sentimental.  They can open up dialogue and share a story.  They can be beautiful ...or scary!  They can bond you to your love..or remind you of a lost love.  Tattoos have been around for centuries because they can do all these things and more!  So, if you love tattoos then share some pictures with me and I'll post them with this blog!  (Yogachikk@yahoo.com) As always..Happy Fucking!